+ less is more? +As I grew older, I got to know more people. Starting from my neighbours, to classmates in kindergarten, primary school, secondary school, junior college, then national service, and some introductions to friends of friends. With a hundred folks in my MSN account, 200 in my mobile's phonebook and a little more than that in my Friendster account, why do I not know who to call when I want to share something with someone?
I realise that I do not keep in contact with alot of people constantly. To be honest, the number of people whom I message relatively regularly may tally up to about 30. That's only like 15% of the contacts I have in my handphone. Likewise, the number of people who keeps in contact with me quite regularly may be around that figure too. Why is that so? Alright, to the second part, it could be because only 20-odd people think I'm worth keeping in touch with, but it could be also due to the fact of the sheer number of people there are in their phonebooks, and a large part consequentially gets sorta 'left in the cold'.
Of course, that's not to say that we shouldn't get to know more people. A wider social circle enlarges your contacts list when you do need them, but how do you maintain strong bonds between ourselves and the extensive list of contacts we have? Hmm. Toughie. It seems quite impossible to constantly be in touch with the several hundred people in your contact lists. Or, should we split the people up into 'friends', 'acquaintances', 'business contacts', blah blah to decide who and how much we should call? But, that makes it sound like we're drawing up a hierarchy for the people we know, which doesn't sound quite right too.
And I don't know if alot of you share the same sentiments as I do, but I don't exactly have alot of very very strong bonds. I haven't really went through alot with anyone in particular. Is that why I don't feel that extremely strong sense of closeness with most of my friends?
Or.. did the invention of the mobile phone and internet reduced the need to really call and meet up with old friends to remain in contact? Some key presses and keyboard presses and a mouse click away is all that's required to 'talk' to someone. In a way this has gradually weakened the links between people since there's no real need to see the other party in person. And also, no matter what the amount of emotions is put into a sms or email, there's still no way it can be the same as actually listening to someone's voice.The existence of modern gadgets and applications however, makes it able for individuals to save more phone numbers without having to remember them by hard. Argh.. It's so frustrating.
Ok, I still don't exactly have an answer if less is more when it comes to friends. But it Is rather true that we shouldn't have too small a group of friends coz a small social circle is simply impractical in today's world. So, my conclusion is, put more effort in showing love to those who you really care about. Speaking of which, My effort probably leaves much to be desired.
Anyway, it's the weekend. Enjoy all.
Lastly, happy birthday to Al.